Manifest Your Mate!
By Jill Crosby, Founder/Owner of SpiritualSingles.com

Finding the love of your life can be a daunting challenge these days, without having a little help! Most of us on a conscious path are relatively happy and content with our lives; however, having a loving spiritual partnership with a person who enhances our life gives us the opportunity to grow and thrive in a deep, spiritual love, making life more enjoyable!

Here are my tried and true steps for manifesting your life partner:

Get Love: It all starts with YOU. When you love yourself unconditionally, you create loving energy towards yourself which draws loving energy in your direction. To help you get to an unconditionally loving place, treat yourself to a brief meditation of self love every morning and every night (and more throughout the day if you can!): Close your eyes, take some deep breaths, get centered and relaxed. Once you are in a meditative state, feel your connection with Divine Energy and know that you are part of the Divine. Know that you are worthy of being, doing and having whatever you desire. Know that you deserve to be loved unconditionally. Feel grateful, joyful and in love with yourself. Do this everyday for at least 5 minutes when you first wake in the morning and every night before bed. Appreciate and love yourself throughout the day. Take a few breaths and think “I love me! I deserve love in my life!” and feel the total acceptance and love for yourself. When you love yourself, you will attract others who also love you.

Get Clear: When using the techniques of manifestation, be very clear and very specific about who you would like to draw into your life. In my consulting business I met a man who had been using a traditional, mainstream online dating site. He had been corresponding by email with an intelligent, funny, interesting woman for over 3 months. (Note: if someone does not want to meet you in person within the first week, consider this a major red flag!). Finally, the big day came…they were finally going to meet in person! He told me how excited he was to meet this wonderful woman face to face. That day, he received an astonishing email from her saying, “Ha ha, I’m a guy!” So, when I say be clear and specific, I mean be clear and specific!

• To get clear, write two brief “stories”. First, describe your ideal mate as if he/she already exists in your life. Have some fun with it and be sure to include as many details as possible. Write your story as if he/she is already in your life. Include his/her personality traits and qualities, beliefs, values and lifestyle. Make sure to include gender, sexual preference, smoking, drinking, spirituality, kids, political views, level of consciousness/social/environmental awareness and anything that is important to you. For example: “My husband is the most incredible, intelligent, kind, funny, friendly, environmentally conscious, spiritual man I have ever met. I feel so appreciated, loved, and respected by him. His down-to-earth, genuine realness and huge heart always make me smile—he helps keep me grounded! He brings out my playful, youthful spirit and makes me laugh till it hurts! Our spiritual bond is incredible and we have the most powerful, deep meditations and tantric love experiences ever. We inspire each other to be better people and to take great care of our bodies by eating healthy foods and exercising everyday…..”
• Second, get your creative juices flowing and write a story describing your “ideal day” with your ideal mate. Do this in the present tense, as if it’s occurring as you write. Make it multi-sensory and live it up! Include where you are living, and how you will feel. For example: “I wake up in the morning and feel the tropical breeze on my face, smell the gardenias in the air and hear the peaceful sound of the ocean waves outside our balcony door. I roll over and smile at my husband. His eyes light up as he hugs me and tells me how much he loves me. My heart swells with joy and gratitude, feeling so content and so in love! We get out of bed and eat some papayas and mangos for breakfast, enjoy a deep meditation and then go for a swim in the ocean with the dolphins that frequent the cove we live on…etc....” Go through your whole ideal day like this and you will not only be manifesting your ideal mate, you will also be creating your ideal life!

Get Real: It’s time to throw Barbie and Ken in the trash and GET REAL! When you are describing your ideal mate, let things that are not very important go! If you are a woman, and you prefer a taller partner, be open to meeting someone shorter (there are a lot of incredible not-so-tall-men out there!). If you are man and you want a perfectly slender/thin woman, instead, imagine your mate active, energetic and fit. Let the specific body type go. Chemistry is a funny thing and comes in all shapes and sizes! If you prefer younger or older, know that age is extremely relative. Be open to dating outside your race too. There are many things that are more important to a loving relationship than age, race, height or weight, like children, spirituality and lifestyle. The most important thing is; how does the other person make you feel?

Get Grateful: Now let’s energize your stories! Read your description of your ideal mate out loud. Imagine that he/she is ALREADY in your life and FEEL grateful, joyful, and in love! Amp up these feelings as much as you can! Then, read your “ideal day” story out loud and feel even more joy and gratitude for the beautiful life you have created together. Now, let it go and whenever you think about it, imagine the wonderful life you have together and know that it’s done. Feel grateful every time you think about it. To successfully manifest, you must be confident. Any feelings of doubt or skepticism will slow down the process or even reverse it. Stay in your power by keeping the feelings of gratitude pumped up! Know you deserve a loving, spiritual relationship and get ready to meet your ideal mate!

Get Busy: This last step is critical in manifesting your mate! TAKE ACTION! Put yourself in situations where you can meet other eligible singles. Start dating and get the energy flowing. Be open to meeting/dating a variety of people “looks-wise”----remember, chemistry is a funny thing! Joining an online spiritual dating site will help you get started. By joining a spiritual dating site, you eliminate the tiresome process of weeding through thousands of people who are not serious and don’t have the basic spiritual beliefs and values that you have. Put yourself in the best, targeted “pool” of conscious singles possible! Once a member, use your intuition and let Divine Energy guide you towards whom you should contact. Be pro-active and initiate contact! When dating and meeting new prospects, be authentic and real. Chris Rock jokes about singles “sending their representatives” on dates. Leave your representative at home and trust that the Divine love you feel for yourself will be reciprocated by the right person. Just relax, be yourself, have fun and enjoy the process. Continue to feel grateful in advance and watch the sparks fly! Here’s to you and may you manifest your mate easily, joyfully and powerfully!

Bio:
Jill Crosby founded SpiritualSingles.com nine years ago and has been a consultant in the dating industry for almost 10 years. She has been personally responsible for hundreds of long term relationships and marriages over this period of time. She is also a Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist as well as a dynamic public speaker and workshop leader with a knack for facilitating “breakthroughs” and “ah ha” moments. Currently, she resides in Portland, Oregon.